Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Simple Changes for the Year Ahead

I am afraid of change.  Actually, that is an understatement.  I really find a comfortable zone and stick with it.  It really was a HUGE decision for me to want Oliver because I was so use to just having Dexter to deal with and I liked where I was at.  I will not say that deciding to have a second child was a simple change because child bearing really isn't simple but I will tell you why I think it was the best decision for 2011.

Lets put behind us the fact that I hate change.  Lets forget about my comfort zone and focus on the reasons I chose to change my family and my life for the better.  I decided right around the time that Dexter was 2 that I not only needed to provide him with a sibling/best friend/play mate but I also craved the baby smell.  I had a wonderful time being pregnant with Dexter and I couldn't wait to undergo that process again.  This time, boy was it different.  It was a hard adjustment focusing on someone, something other than Dexter.  My pregnancy was difficult and painful and I feel like I became a grump.  Now that I have had Oliver I look back on the journey to better our family with a smile on my face.  This change sure is going to take root in 2011!

Oliver is starting to smile and laugh a lot and each day Dexter becomes more and more attached to his brother.  It was a rough start because Oliver, being a baby, cries a lot and is very needy.  This makes Dexter sad because I am not devoting all of my attention to him all the time.  The more time that goes by, the more Dexter is accepting of this change.  I have noticed the brotherly bond start to form and this makes me happy.  This change is affecting us all and each minute of every day is a new one and one that will forever make this family of 4 a close knit unit!

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”  This quote, by Elizabeth Stone talks about how hard it is for a person to decide to become a parent.  This time though, for me, I was already a parent.  I have heard people say that once you add the third child to the mix is gets easier and easier.  Well, we made another very big decision this year, my husband had a vasectomy.  There will be no third or fourth child.  I underestimated how hard it would be to have two children.  It is WAY harder than I thought it would be.  I have to split my time between a needy baby and a needy toddler.  I have questioned my sanity more times than I care to admit.  One thing I know for sure is that I wouldn't change my life for anything, not even a permanent trip to Tahiti

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Brenda said...

I know what you mean about having a baby and a toddler is harder than you expected, but you wouldn't change anything. I have a 14 year old, 12 year old, and 4 year old(the reason for the gap is too long to explain here). It is definitely much harder than I thought to have the third one, but I also wouldn't change anything.

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