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Friday, July 19, 2013

Kelly Boyce Hurlbert, forever in my heart, forever my friend



Lord Tennyson once said, "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" and I couldn't agree more with him.  I am so happy to have had almost 8 years of fantastic love and friendship with Kelly and my life will forever be better for having loved her.

Two weeks ago, on July 5th, 2013, my best friend, Kelly Hurlbert, was killed in a hit-and-run accident while riding her bike home from work.  She was 29 years old and had her whole live ahead of her.  I would give most anything to have one more hug, one more kiss, one more margarita!  Her death has been a real slap-in-the-face and honestly, her strength is what is helping pull me through.

I was honored to be asked by her amazing husband, Pauly, to write her obituary.  He said that she had always liked my writing and he thought she would want me to write it.  What a humbling experience.  Through Kelly's death, I found strength in myself that I didn't know I possessed.  I am thankful to my husband for not only giving me confidence and ideas for the obituary but for allowing me to use his shirt as my personal Kleenex.  



The strength that I summoned up was much-needed for her Memorial Service, as it was also my birthday.  I hadn't spent a single birthday, since meeting Kelly, without a high-five, thoughtful present or surprise shot from her.  She was the most enthusiastic partier.  She loved any reason to celebrate and birthdays were one of her favorite!  It took me awhile to come to the conclusion but in the end, I was happy to share my day with my best friend.  



I still cry thinking about the life that she was meant to live.  The babies she was suppose to mother, the trips she was suppose to take, the love that she was suppose to lavish her Pauly in for all of eternity.  I cry knowing that I cannot call her on the phone and hear her tell me that she "misses my face" or that she "needs a little Maggie in my life".  I want to sit down at our favorite restaurant and talk about life.  I want to travel to San Juan, where she and her husband would soon be moving.  I just want my friend.  

I feel her with me.  She calms my anger and cheers' my triumphs.  She is my rock and although her time on this planet was far too short, she will forever live within me.  #RememberToLove






14 comments:

aLiYoOp906 said...

My heart aches for you Maggie. I cannot imagine what you and everyone that knew Kelly is going through. Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Coupon Savvy Sarah said...

Thinking of you hon!

Just Short said...

Beautifully said.

Naomi Shapiro said...

I can't imagine what you've been going through the past few weeks. Kelly sounds like she was much loved and will be missed greatly.

Stephanie Mago-Eagle said...

My heart and prayers to you and her friends and family

Kristy Lautner said...

What a wonderful tribute you are giving this beautiful young woman. I see everyday how much her life and death has impacted our community. I feel like I knew her too.

You are a wonderful friend for sharing this with the world, such raw, rare emotions shared by best friends.

You are her living legacy, lead on!

Saving Our Way said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

Anonymous said...

Your obituary was a beautiful, thoughtful tribute to a beautiful friend. I know that she appreciated and loved all the people that knew her. She will always be in our hearts.

Jessica said...

Maggie that was so beautifully written♥ I know she has inspired me to change, to be a better person and to love a little more. There hasn't been a day or even an hour that I haven't thought about her, Pauly, their families and friends. I will ALWAYS remember to love♥

Lauren T said...

Amazing Maggie!!!!! Your words are beautiful

Anonymous said...

You are a wonderful person with a strong loving heart ♥ an amazing friend as well !♥ u r in our thoughts n hearts... stay strong... kellyann will continue to give us strength n love in our hearts ♥ shay

kolpin said...

the suddenness of her death must be especially difficult to deal with, but you honor her memory so beautifully!

Couponing Away Debt said...

Oh I am so sorry for your loss, thank you so much for sharing such beautiful words and a personal posts. Prayers for you and everyone involved!

TaraMetBlog said...

What a beautiful tribute. My heart goes out to Kelly's family and to your aching heart.